He hadn't left for supper yet so I suggested we eat supper in St. Joe; they picked Fazollie's. After we ate, we went to Bible Study. Tony knew some of the teens and adults there, from church camp and everyone was so friendly, which will help Tony as he attends each Wednesday. (in a side note the couple behind me started talking before it started and I discovered that they knew our former preacher and they gave me an update on him, his wife and their 3 girls (who handed out programs and rice bags at our wedding 34 years ago) which was super cool to hear (although in my mind they were still 5, 7 and 9 years old) and all 3 had children of their own now. They told me they would tell them "Hello" from me when they went back for a visit, over Labor Day Weekend.
Afterwards we went to Wally World and got a few things and Tony couldn't thank me enough for surprising him. He said we have to come over "every Wednesday" to help make the week go faster but we won't...well, maybe I could go every other week. ☺
I didn't tell Tony how much I have been missing him or about my crying bouts because he told me he's not liking it there so far and I didn't want to make matters worse. His roommates don't talk to each other (I hope that changes) he said they just sit around with headphones in. Those of you that know Tony, know he doesn't know a stranger and can get along with anyone so he was happy we gave him something to do, since he already had his homework done. We got home late but this Momma is happy because he comes home for the weekend TOMORROW!!! Oh the benefit of your son going to college 75 miles away (Tony checked out several colleges before picking this one but didn't want to be to far from home) ☺
As I see it, parenthood has two big transitions, when our children arrive and when they leave. I thought signing Tony up for Preschool years ago tugged at my heart strings or even watching him walking across the stage last May at graduation but last week, when I took him to "move in day" at his dorm, I knew within ten steps of walking away from my sons dorm, that not only my life, but my son's life, had changed...Forever!!! I did all I could do to hold it together, saving the tears until I drove away, out of his sight before letting the tears start streaming down my face, I was sad for me, as I know I will miss him being around the house. He makes me laugh, he likes to prank me or sneak up behind me and scare me. He's forever telling me "I Love you Mom" before he goes to bed and almost always ends our phone conversations that way, too but yet I'm happy for him as he starts a new chapter of life (have I mentioned I'm thankful he's only 75 miles away). ☺
All the times I heard "enjoy your kids because time flies and before you know it they will be off to college"...looks like that time has come...and I'm NOT ready for it. I want to turn back time and start all over again and all 3 kids are toddlers yet I enjoy watching them grow each day into such remarkable kids. Thankful God has blessed Dan and I with such amazing kids. I'm not the perfect parent; they aren't perfect kids but they make me look forward to each new day and each new memory, with them.
Moving on and thinking positive thoughts, I have "discovered" that I still have 2 kids, still at home, that will help me tackle each day and help prepare me for their time to leave the nest, these next few years. School started Aug. 13th, Nick is a Senior, KJ a sophomore. Nick still talks about going to college in Wyoming (and I still pray he changes his mind and goes to college somewhere closer, much closer, to home). Note to my Mom and Dad "How did you cope with us 4 kids "flying the coop"? It's been so long ago, I don't even remember my own thoughts, of when I left home.
So summer came and went...FAST!!! The boys worked for Dan all summer and all 3 kids went to church camp, in June. While they were at camp, I took my Mom and Dad on an overnight road trip, to the salt mine and Cosmosphere, in Hutchinson. I enjoyed having them all to myself for 36 hours. ☺Nick went fishing, when time allowed and they camped out a few times (at Dan's shop).
After much planning by Dan's brother Curt, Dan and the boys, 4 of Dan's brothers, one sister, and several other family members (26 total, I believe) went on a canoe trip, in July, at the boundary waters of Minnesota. Dan's Dad had taken Dan and several of his brothers, to this very spot so you might say, it was on Dan's "Bucket List" that he would someday take his boys. Oh, don't feel bad for KJ and I that we didn't go on the canoe trip...we were invited but it didn't take but a second for the 2 of us to decline, the invite. ☺ KJ and I went to Branson with my parents and brother for a few days and just "chilled" at home, smiling as we thought about Dan and the boys, paddling...for HOURS and HOURS a day, fighting off mosquitoes, the size of Hummingbirds, constantly checking your surroundings, for bear or moose. I know they had a great time and I'm pretty sure they are happy that these two city girls, didn't go with them. I know I'm sure glad I didn't go...no offense to those of you that did go but it's just not my cup of tea.
|I do regret NOT getting to see all the beauty they saw on the canoe trip|
|Nick and Tony|
|this picture is worth a thousand SMILES...Dan finally has some down time|
|Yes, this picture is true, I'm looking forward to Tony being home for the weekend.|